i have completed 10 yrs in Europe on work permit... more than half of my professional career i have spent in this part of the world.
world as i see now is like a global village, well connected through internet, each one boasts of having friends and family across the world, reaching out to them anytime anywhere on anymedia ...thanks to internet ... and more than the land and the oceans, its internet that connects the world.
the country you reside and work (karmabhumi)is as close to you as much as your home country but the connection you have with country you reside and work still remains a dotted line connection in practise... And we do need reforms in immigration to really make you feel you are part of a global village ... we sincerely need more than just a virtual connection here.
It feels more when you apply for visa for your family members to visit here on important occasions... they go through the same visa process and nothi
ng matters and it just works the same way always ... It was one of those occasions when visa for my family (my sister who was suppose to accompany my parents) did not go through as smoothly as you expect it to be, which actually had impact on our summer vacation plans for my daughter ... this is still indeed foreign country and with no family support system around it makes it a bit tough at times.
since i had no other plans for my daughter who is 4 yrs old, i gave her options to choose from
1) summer camp
2) at friend's place while both of us at work
3) work with dad at office
And since it was my fault of not planning B's well enough i gave her freedom to choose from. Moreover, I like to take her own decisions and stick to it. She was very much interested in option 3. Initially i thought it is very difficult but it was so good for both of us and especially for me.
She had got a badge from Cisco during Christmas party and she remembered to carry it with her pretty much the same way i do. She swiped it at main entrance along with mine and she had this tremendous satisfaction that it worked.
she carried with herself her bag which had almost everything she needed to spend her day with me. When we entered the office, she was bit shy to wish folks at reception and then went dancing to press the lift button as if no is watching her
As she made herself comfortable in the chair and laying around her belongings, i gave her some white papers and showing her old drawings, i told her if you draw good enough, i will put them on the desk and here are the rules
1) you don't shout or make noise that would disturb others
2) stay focussed on ur work while I do my work
3) if you want to go to toilet, we go to Gent's toilet and its all the same inside.
4) if you need anything, do let me know.
we went around to have some water and tea, when my colleagues saw little one with me, they were amused and started giving her pencil/colors/pens to make her feel comfortable. She was really enjoying the attention she was getting.
She used to stay quite at desk while i used to go for 15mts scrum meeting and one of the occasions when our director saw her her alone at my desk and he then took her to his office and showed her owl sketch hanging in his office and gave her paper and pens and asked her to draw... she really enjoyed that outing and she was very proud that she met my big boss and spent time with him when i later told her the same.
believe me she used to accompany me for long meeting and come with me do her job sitting with me , my colleagues were surprised and equally amused to see her incredibly silent.
we used to break early for lunch to coincide with her lunch timings. we used to take her scooter while going for lunch so she gets to play a bit and we explored almost all hotels in rolle and especially vegetarian food and she thoroughly enjoyed the change. After lunch we used to walk a bit across lake watch fishes in the lake and enjoy good weather back to work.
once we came back to work i used remind her the same rules.
I took her to lab since I had to work in lab to wire testbeds, she found it bit noisy but she could speak up at her natural self. She attended our sprint planning meeting for 2 hours, sitting in one corner and drawing quietly, but listening to what we were discussing, i realised that later she asked me lot of technical questions related to what we discussed. She still remembers this very long meeting and told me she does not like long meetings and they should be short. She was very excited to see one of my colleagues she knew on telepresence unit dialling from India. She attended our technical discussions and was very curious to know what we are doing and how we do and asking me later why did you guys discuss it that way and what were you explaining on the board. She really co-operated and more than one way she helped me do my job well.
At office she was a source of inspiration and energy for me and sitting just there next to me. I hardly step out when i'm at work but she made me explore restaurants and walk around a bit which in turn helped me and she enjoyed the change too. And at office with every one showing lot of care and appreciation for she was looking forward to coming everyday.
My wife is a doctor and she had been with her too but when someone asks her what she wants to be, she is very quick to say she wants to be an engineer and wants to work for Cisco. Hats off to her and all girls and working women. With her, as young as her i realised, they are so focussed on what they do, so caring, so co-operative, listening, disciplined, energetic, outgoing and perfectionist .. we just need more of them. I remember one of my female colleagues remarked when I told her that my daughter is accompanying me at work, she said "by bringing her, you are doing a favour to Cisco".